Meditations on Patience and Faith...and Blessings

It’s been a pretty crazy couple of weeks for this little family. And I mean crazy. On June 30th, Michael got a pretty shocking call at four o’clock in the morning. It was his confused boss, letting him know that he thought Yarnell’s Ice Cream, the company Michael has worked for for the past five years, had gone out of business overnight…without any warning to employees.

In all honesty, it has been pretty obvious that things were going downhill at Yarnell’s for a while now. After a string of drastic pay cuts, we began casually looking for new options for Michael. But Yarnell’s has continued to pay our bills (and not much more) in the meantime…until last weekend, when he and two hundred other employees received their final paychecks which included no severance, no pay for saved vacation time, and nothing else.

So here we sit…in small town Arkansas, with a seventeen month old and another baby due in sixteen (ish??? I’ve lost count) weeks, and no jobs. All our plans have been thrown up into the air, along with all our feelings of security and peace. With the last little bit of my master’s degree able to be wrapped up from home, I was all set to stay home with my babies for a year or so before really trying to get my career started. Michael was content with Yarnell’s but hoping to find something better for us in the meantime. It wouldn’t have been easy, but we would have gotten by while our babies were little. And now..who knows? Either one or both of us could end up having to go to work. We’re most likely looking at relocating, which is equally exciting and terrifying for a number of reasons. We may or may not have a settled life before the birth of this baby. We’re starting over.

We’ve been trying to look at this as an opportunity rather than a hardship. Michael has been tied to a job he hasn’t loved for a long time. Now, he’s not. He needed a change, and now he has to make one. There is a plan in all this…but it’s still scary. I am hardwired for anxiety, and I’ve done my best to keep it at bay – to be the most supportive and encouraging wife, the most calm and assuring mommy, the most soothing and healthy home for our littlest one. It’s my first tough lesson in motherhood. I’ve always known that women hold families together and keep things smooth and peaceful, but I’ve never been challenged to try to do this when I feel so anxious and uncertain about the future. I do my best to take things one day at a time, to enjoy the time with my husband, to focus on what I can learn.

Right now, I’m spending a lot of time meditating on patience and faith. These are the lessons the universe is trying to teach me through this. These two things have always been some of my greatest weaknesses, and I know that somehow, through this, I am being shaped and prepared for a day when I will truly need to lean on patience and faith. In the scheme of things, our problems are small. We have each other, our health and love and absolute assurance in one another. We have safety and security and a roof over our heads. We have a huge community of family and friends loving us through this. If I can’t learn to be patient and have faith that we will be taken care of, that we are on the path to what is meant for us, in the face of all of these blessings, then how could I ever hope to make it through something really hard? There are people all over this world struggling to literally survive. There are people who’ve lost their homes and loved ones in disasters. There are people who live every single day afraid of real and dangerous threats. There are people who are fighting addictions and diseases. There are people who are truly broken and alone. And somehow, these people survive.
We will make it through this. We will find the right way to provide for our little family. Our children will grow up knowing love and hope and happiness (and hopefully, someday, faith and patience). I look forward to the day when things will seem more settled and less scary.

Until then, I will do my best to wait and believe that things will work out. I will make the most of these days. Until then, I will focus on how thankful I am. I am thankful for the soft places to land. I am thankful that when I freak out and cry and talk one hundred miles an hour and make absolutely no sense, my husband just holds me and breathes deep for me and tells me it’s all going to work out fine the 157 times I need to hear it. I am thankful for knowing that even the hands that sometimes seem to be pushing me are really just trying to help hold me up and keep me steady. I am thankful for the best family who loves me and the kindest and most wonderfully supportive, best friends in the world. I am thankful for a hot shower and good smelling candles and the perfect Ryan Adams song coming on the radio. I am thankful for the smiliest, funniest, happiest little boy. I am thankful for this healthy littlest one. Most of all, I am thankful for knowing that no matter how much time I spend measuring out, counting, categorizing, and strategizing against my pains and worries and frustrations, they will never compare to the blessings I can count up in just a couple of seconds.